There are many versions of this. “She made me so upset”. “He made me feel stupid”.
So many people blame others for what they are feeling.
They then act on the feeling, and believe it is the other person’s fault for what they have done.
Our feelings are a choice. NOBODY can MAKE you feel anything.
If somebody says something hurtful to you, you have two choices: firstly you can personalise it and internalise what they have said and feel hurt, upset, angry, sad etc,
OR secondly you can choose not to let it affect you and recognise the deficit is more in them than yourself.
As Don Miguel Ruiz wrote in his Toltec Wisdom Book…….”that person tries to send poison to you and if you take it personally, then you take that poison and it becomes yours…….you eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage”.
REMEMBER . . . . . . . . . . . . . the power is within you to choose how you feel.
This is not to say that we deny the feelings of disappointment, hurt, anger etc. but that we acknowledge them and deal with them. Whether this means learning how to be more assertive and letting the other person know how hurt you have felt for what they said or did……….or asserting that “I will not let that person “infect” or “affect” me with their personal demons, there is always a choice.
